One of the paradoxes of the aspirational person centers on positive, personal change. We want to evolve and get better, but we are creatures of habit. And in our habituation we find familiarity and competence. Competence has always been rewarded. Coloring inside the lines is something we were taught in kindergarten.
Most people will do something for a very long time because it feels familiar. Even if it leads to suffering. The familiar feedback loop creates comfort. Combined with the fear of being even temporarily incompetent keeps them feeling stuck.
The Dogma Athletica patron is unique. Our tribe is a group of people seeking to Live It to their full potential. You choose to lean into that fear of change.
Change is the unfamiliar.
Change creates incompetence.
Mastery of the temporary incompetence creates growth.
The pot of gold lies outside your comfort zone. Think about the things you value most in life. All of them have a common thread; you worked hard for them. You overcame challenges, you made mistakes, you learned and you persevered.
When you start something new you are going to be incompetent at it for a period of time. With deliberate practice you will master new skills and grow. I have heard the following phrases frequently from new participants before they begin a Live It Group session or yoga class. “I don’t know what I’m doing. Will everyone be looking at me? Will I make a fool of myself? Do I look good in my yoga pants?” About 15 minutes into the session they soon recognize everyone is so focused and in their own zone that the fears of the new participant evaporate. Everyone, including the new person is fully engaged in the process. The incompetencies become new skills.
Change is even more powerful in a collective group. The culture of the Live It Group model is supportive and powerful. We have found cohorts of people who want to change together. When a group is in sync, the change is reinforcing. The support of your peers trumps the discomfort of the temporary inability.
The culture is part of the Live It Group strategy. Our coaches are indoctrinated to this culture.
Our Job is not to prepare students for something. Our job is to help students prepare themselves for anything.
How can I change?
1) Get comfortable with being uncomfortable – Your body and mind will adapt to the new stimulus. Embrace it.
2) Get competent instruction – Great coaches are invaluable in every facet of life. An excellent coach will change your incompetency curve dramatically.
3) Surround yourself with other aspirational people – you may have heard the phrase, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” Choose good people.
Change almost never fails because it’s too early. It almost always fails because it’s too late. Don’t wait.